Living Apart To Stay Together: Is This Actually Feasible? Does It Ever Work?

By: Leslie Cane: Many people picture a married couple as two people who are living together and who are spending most of their waking hours (outside of work, at least) together. But what happens when so much closeness just doesn’t work anymore? Or when too much togetherness actually causes conflict that begins to deteriorate or […]

I Feel Like I Don’t Even Know My Husband Any More During Our Trial Separation.

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who feel that their spouse is acting like an entirely different person during their trial or marital separation. Of course, this is very troubling. Not only is concerning and painful to see your spouse transform before your very eyes, but it makes you wonder what this transformation […]

My Husband Left But Is Confused. Should I Give Him An Ultimatum?

By: Leslie Cane: During a marital separation in which one spouse has left the other, it’s very normal to check for any signs of confusion or hesitation. After all, who doesn’t want to believe that their spouse was never really sure about the separation or about leaving? Of course you want to believe that he […]

My Husband Puts His Friends Ahead Of Me. He Does Not Fully Meet His Commitments To Me Or Honor Our Marriage Vows

By: Leslie Cane: It’s not uncommon for me to hear from people who have discovered that their marriage hasn’t turned out how they thought that it would. Many see this as a negative thing because they perceive that their spouse is falling short in some way. And many feel as if their spouse isn’t meeting […]

My Husband Regrets Leaving But Won’t Come Back

By: Leslie Cane: Often, when you are separated, you would give almost anything to hear your spouse say that leaving you was a mistake. Because the hope is that once this realization sets in, he will eventually make his way back home so that all can eventually be well once again. But this isn’t always […]

My Separated Husband Has Me So Confused. His Behavior Is All Over The Place

By: Leslie Cane: It’s not unusual to be separated and to have your spouse act in very conflicting and confusing ways. One day they can be very loving or receptive toward you and the next day they might be downright distant and cold. This can be very discouraging, especially if you never wanted the separation […]

How Does The Marriage Work When The Husband Comes Home From His Mid Life Crisis?

By: Leslie Cane: Often, when your husband leaves you because he is going through a mid life crisis, you can’t see very far beyond this. In other words, your main goal is just getting him to come back home, so you rarely think about what happens in the long term after he finally arrives home. […]

How Can I Get Along With My Husband Better? I Think My Marriage Is In Trouble

By: Leslie Cane: It’s not uncommon for the way that you relate to your spouse to change over the years. After you have been together for a while, you might not be as loving or as demonstrative as you once were. This doesn’t mean that you don’t love your spouse. It just means that the […]

My Spouse Wants A Separation But Doesn’t Want To Lose Me. What Does This Mean?

By: Leslie Cane: When you come to realize that your spouse wants a marital separation, it can be a very upsetting and confusing time. And this is true even when your spouse is as straightforward as he can possibly be. But, this whole thing is made worse when your spouse sends you mixed signals or […]

Can A Separation Really Save A Marriage?

By: Leslie Cane: There are really three outcomes for a marriage that endures a trial or marital separation. (And I’m not talking about the kind of separation where one spouse is required to travel for work or school. I’m talking about the type of separation where the marriage is in trouble so the couple choses to […]