Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: I hear from a lot of wives who have either just started their separation or who have been told that their husbands want one. Understandably, many of them are scared and reluctant. Many have a hard time finding anything that is positive about their situation, even when they know that having a […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Much of the correspondence that I get is from people who are facing or going through a marital separation. This may be seen as a short term trial separation or as something that may be seen as a precursor to a divorce. People often want to know if the strategy that they […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  The word “separation” is not one that many wives are longing to hear.  In fact, it ranks right up there with the words “divorce,” and “sexually transmitted diseases” as words that you never want to hear in the same sentence with your marriage. Sometimes though, you can not avoid a separation because […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who have made the decision that they would like to date their spouse during a martial separation. The idea is that these dates will make the separation more bearable and will bring the couple closer together. However, as you might imagine, there can be a lot of […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When a separated husband starts coming around to visit, many wives feel very encouraged. After all, many of us know wives whose separated husbands rarely, if ever, call or keep in touch – much less reach out in person. Much of the time, we try to tell ourselves that his beginning to […]

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By: Leslie Cane: From the correspondence that I get, I have to say that you can typically divide it into a couple of categories. There are the folks who have just separated and are panicked because this is all new and scary to them. And there are those for whom the separation has lingered on […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  When your husband has left and you desperately want him back, you are always looking for signs – any signs at all – that he might be losing his resolve about this separation business and might want you back.  So you’re sort of always watching and you are hoping that when he […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I get a lot of correspondence from wives who aren’t sure which topics of conversation are appropriate during their trial separation. Often, they’d very much like to gauge how he is feeling and thinking but they are afraid of asking for too much information too soon. Sometimes, when he acts in a […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  When we are the separated spouse who is still very invested in our marriage, we will often ask ourselves what we need to do in order to get our spouse to cooperate with us.  Most of us feel that ultimately, we will not be able to save our marriage on our own.  […]

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Comments Off on My Separated Spouse Doesn’t Know What He Wants. Therefore, I Don’t Know Who To Be Or How To Act

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who feel that they have a very unique (and discouraging) situation. Not only has their husband left them (meaning that he has left their home and seemingly initiated a separation.) But, he has also left the immediate area, meaning that the wife doesn’t have easy access to […]

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