My Husband Asked Me For A Separation And Treated Me Badly Now He Wants To Act Like He’s My Best Friend

By: Leslie Cane: It’s very difficult when you are dealing with a spouse who wants a separation at a time when you’re never felt so strongly about saving your marriage. At that time, you’d often give almost anything for him to change his mind. But what if he does change his mind for seemingly no […]

My Spouse Says I’m Never Any Fun So He Wants A Separation

By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from people who are facing a separation and who don’t necessarily agree with the reasoning that their spouse is offering up. And even if they do see some validity to their reasoning, they often just don’t how to change who or what they already are. Here’s just one example. […]

How Long Will It Take My Separated Husband To Miss Me?

By: Leslie Cane:  Many separated wives intuitively know that having their husband miss them is probably the first step toward a reconciliation.  And although many wives worry about this, they hope that their husband will miss them out of habit, if for nothing else.  After all, when someone has been part of your life for […]

My Husband Says I’m Not Who I Used To Be. And He Doesn’t Like The New Me

By: Leslie Cane: There’s no question that many of us are not the same person who we were when we met and then married our spouse. This can be particularly true if you have been married for quite a while. And this is because most of us mature and experience things that shape our personalities […]

Once Your Spouse Actually Leaves, Is There Any Hope For A Reconciliation

By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from wives that confess that their worst fear (and the day that they dread the most) is the time when their husband walks out of their door, bags in hand, determined to leave them or the marriage. It’s no wonder that many of us will do almost anything in […]

My Husband Says He’s Leaving Because Our Marriage Might Be Over, But Admits That I Didn’t Do Anything Wrong

By: Leslie Cane: When my husband finally admitted that he was thinking about leaving me, I can remember saying over and over again: “please just tell me what I did wrong so that I can fix it.” But my husband never seemed to have the answers for me in regards to this. We went round […]

Why Is My Separated Husband Not Pushing For Divorce?

By: Leslie Cane: Often, even the most optimistic of people who are going through a martial separation know in our hearts that it could very well end in divorce. We’ve all known a couple who began the process with a separation but who eventually filed for divorce and began the process of ending their marriage. […]

How To Stay Strong When Your Husband Leaves For A Trial Separation

By: Leslie Cane:  I know first hand that even when you consider yourself a strong or stoic person, you may feel weak and overwhelmed during your trial or marital separation.  Even if you are typically an optimist who believes that things which are meant to be are always going to work out, you can be […]

How To Be Vulnerable And Open Again During Or After A Separation.

By: Leslie Cane:  You may not start your separation with the intention of closing yourself off from your spouse or other loved ones.  In fact, many of us start with the hope that we will restore the intimacy to eventually become closer.  This is the ideal.  And it happens for some of us.  But for […]

My Husband Is Leaving Me, But Is Obviously Feeling Guilty. Does This Mean Anything?

By: Leslie Cane: After your husband leaves for a trial separation, it’s normal to watch his behavior very closely. Sometimes, we see things that aren’t there. But other observations are kind of obvious. We are looking for clues as to how he might be feeling about the separation and what reactions he might be having […]