My Separated Husband Is Claiming To Want Privacy, But I Think That The Truth Is That He Just Doesn’t Want Me

By: Leslie Cane:  See if this scenario elicits any sense of recognition for you. Perhaps you and your husband are separated.  Perhaps this all came about because your husband felt the need for “space” or “time.”  Understandably, you may have had some difficulty adjusting to this.  One second your husband is there.  And the next […]

My Separated Husband Wants To Live Nearby. Is This A Good Sign?

By: Leslie Cane: For many of us that are facing a separation, having our husband actually leave our home and move out is one of the biggest hurdles that we face. Many of us literally have to look away or actually leave the premises when he actually walks out of the door. Because that reality […]

My Husband Says He’s Unhappy But That It Is Not Because Of Me. How Can I Address This?

By: Leslie Cane:  I often hear from people who have unhappy spouses.  These folks usually know that this unhappiness is greatly harming their marriage, or even putting it at risk.  But, since the unhappiness isn’t their’s, it’s often not clear how to make this better. We’d all like to think that we could make ourselves […]

My Husband Is Claiming To Not Feel Anything For Me

By: Leslie Cane:  If you’re facing martial problems or a separation, it’s very common to try to fall back onto the very basic connection between you – and that is the love that you share.  Because even when things are difficult, most people can at least realize that even if the loving feelings have evolved […]

What Does It Mean When Your Spouse Refuses To Communicate During A Separation?

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes when you are reluctantly separated from your spouse, you see communication as a sort of life line. Whether we’re talking about verbal or written communication, touching base with your spouse can feel vital. Because it’s the only way that you have to establish that they are OK and it’s the only […]

My Separated Husband Asked Me Out To Dinner On My Birthday. How Do I Not Read Too Much Into This?

By: Leslie Cane: When you are separated but wanting desperately to reconcile, you can look for any opportunity to have hope. If your husband calls, asks to see you, or shows any level of commitment or interest, it can be cause for celebration – until it is not. Because those small moments of victory can […]

How Do I Stop Missing My Separated Husband So Much? I Hate That Desperate Feeling When I Think About It

By: Leslie Cane: There’s one feeling that you can pretty much count on when you’re dealing with a separation that you aren’t sure that you wanted in the first place – that of missing your spouse. This often feels like a painful, dull ache that you are aware of almost all of the time. It’s […]

We’re Separated. Why Would My Husband Call One Day And Not The Next?

By: Leslie Cane: Of all of the concerns that I hear about during a trial or marital separation, communication is one of the most common.  Feelings are right up there too, but this article is going to focus on communication – specifically, telephone calls. Many times, the spouse who never wanted to separate is very […]

Can My Husband Love Me And Still Want A Separation? How?

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, when your spouse is telling you that he wants a separation, you feel as if you are getting conflicting information. For example, he will often insist that he still loves you while wanting to be away from you for a little while. And it can be very difficult to reconcile these […]

Making A Bad Marriage Good Again. Is It Possible?

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who now characterize their marriage as a “bad” one. Many of them see the irony in this because, early on, they would have insisted that their marriage was a good one. It’s often obvious how much your marriage has changed. But what might not be so obvious […]