Should You Expect Your Husband To Change? Is It Realistic?

By: Leslie Cane: If you suspect that your marriage is in trouble, you may have entertained the idea of encouraging your spouse – or even yourself – to change for the sake of your marriage. But even when this idea seems like a necessary one, many people intuitively know that it will be a challenge […]

My Husband Uses “I” Instead Of “We.” And He Rarely Uses My Name Anymore

By: Leslie Cane: In past articles, I’ve stressed that it is very important for couples to take a “we” approach to marriage and to life. When you see yourself as part of a unit rather than an individual, this shows commitment to your marriage and affection for your spouse. A spouse who sees himself as […]

My Husband Has Given Up On Our Marriage And Wants Time Apart. I Don’t Want To Give Up.

By Leslie Cane: It is heart-wrenching when you suspect that your husband has given up on or checked out of your marriage. It is absolutely heartbreaking if he comes right out and admits this. At that point, there is no longer any room for doubt, and you can no longer fool yourself into believing that […]

My Husband Doesn’t Put Me First In His Life. Everyone And Everything Else Is A Higher Priority Than Me.

By: Leslie Cane: I hear from many wives who feel like they fall dead-last on their husbands’ priority list. Understandably, some wives notice this troubling behavior, but then try to talk themselves out of their observations. Perhaps he’s just busy or distracted. Perhaps the wife is paranoid and is seeing things that aren’t there. Or […]

Our Trial Separation Hurt Our Marriage Instead Of Helping It. What Now?

By: Leslie Cane: Many wives reluctantly agree to a trial separation because they fear that it is the only way to help their marriage. Their husband has made it clear that if the wife doesn’t grant a trial separation or break, he will distance himself or begin the process of ending the marriage anyway. In […]

My Separated Husband Asks Me Out And Then Cancels. Is He Having Second Thoughts?

By: Leslie Cane: Understandably, many separated wives become extremely hopeful and excited when their husband asks them to accompany him on an outing. Even if it is as simple as getting coffee together, being asked out by your separated husband can feel like Christmas morning. But what happens if the outing doesn’t actually happen because […]

Think Your Husband’s Bad Attitude Is Ruining Your Marriage? Here’s Why You Might Be Right

By: Leslie Cane: I’ve heard (and read) tons of complaints about husbands adding to household stress right now because of his “bad” or negative attitude. Honestly, this is not surprising. We are living in unprecedented, difficult times right now. And with quarantines or limits on daily life, most of us are spending much more time […]

My Husband Doesn’t Care When I Cry. It’s As If My Tears Have No Effect Or Make Him Frustrated. Is My Marriage In Trouble?

By: Leslie Cane: Many wives notice various signs of disconnect when their marriage begins to take a turn for the worse. One of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wife’s emotions. And one of the most troubling scenarios where you see this is when the wife […]

I Reluctantly Separated From My Husband. How Do I Know If We Will Reconcile?

By: Leslie Cane: The majority of wives who visit this site are extremely motivated to reconcile with their separated husbands. I know this because the search terms used to reach the site often deal with reconciliation after marital separation. My “most read” articles also deal with saving your marriage after separating, giving space, or taking […]