I Have No Romantic Feelings Whatsoever For My Spouse

By: Leslie Cane: It’s not unusual for me to hear from people who literally feel their romantic view of their spouse starting to wane. To some extent, this is somewhat normal and expected. So many things in our lives compete for our attention that martial romantic feelings need to be actively nurtured in order to […]

My Husband Constantly Accuses Me Of Not Loving Him Enough

By: Leslie Cane:  One of the most common topics that I hear about is an inequity of affection between two spouses.  Every one wants to feel special, valued, and understood.  And when enough times goes by that your spouse isn’t feeling these things, he will probably eventually tell you.  Sometimes he tells you with words.  […]

When Reconciling With A Spouse, Do Things Get Worse Before They Get Better?

By: Leslie Cane: We separated wives often see our reconciliation as the start of the end game. What I mean by that is that we can spend a lot of time thinking that if we can just come up with the magic formula to get our separated husband to reconcile with us, it will hopefully […]

My Husband Ran Away When Things Got Tough

By: Leslie Cane:  When you walk down the aisle and say “I do” to your spouse, you are likely anticipating the good days ahead of you.  It is just human nature to focus on future pleasure and to minimize the possibility of future pain.  So for those of us are said the “for richer and […]

Why Would My Husband Want Me To Throw Him Out Of The House?

By: Leslie Cane:  I sometimes hear from wives whose husbands are strongly considering a separation, but who are also torn about the idea. So sometimes, the husband will do something to incite the wife to take the action that will push him out.  That way, he doesn’t need to feel guilty and he can feel […]

Signs That Your Husband Is Actually Trying To Save Your Marriage

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, when our husbands tell us that they aren’t happy or that they may want a separation, we worry that no matter what he says or does, he has already checked out of our marriage. Even when he backtracks and tells us that he will ‘try’ to help us save our marriage, […]

My Separated Spouse Says I Have To Earn His Affection

By: Leslie Cane:  When you’re going through a separation, you often think that if you could get your spouse to love you just a little bit more, then you might be able to inspire a reconciliation.  Some of us become so desperate that we will come right out and ask our spouse what it will […]

My Spouse Left But Now Is Asking To Return. However, I’m Afraid Of Being Used

By: Leslie Cane:  Believe it or not, it’s very common to question the motivations of a separated spouse who suddenly wants to come home.  This can be very confusing when you’ve spent weeks (or even months) trying everything in your power to lure your spouse home, while telling yourself that you will take him in […]

I Want My Husband Back, But He Doesn’t Seem Interested At All

By: Leslie Cane: One of the biggest challenges that separated wives face is enticing back a husband who just doesn’t seem interested in the marriage anymore.  Often, your initial efforts fall on deaf ears.  As a result, you can become more and more desperate to get the attention of your husband, which might lead you […]

Do Depressed, Separated Men Ever Return Home?

By: Leslie Cane: I hear from a lot of wives who firmly feel that their husband’s state of mind has a lot to do with their current marital separation. Many could not help but notice that their husband became depressed and unhappy just before he pushed to separate. Of course, these wives are concerned not […]