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By: Leslie Cane: It can be a very difficult thing to hear your husband tell you that he doesn’t want to be married to you anymore. It’s a hopeless feeling to believe that the future of your marriage is entirely out of your hands. It can feel as if no matter what you do, you’re […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When a wife is separated but doesn’t want to be, she’ll often brainstorm things she can do that might improve things. One very common strategy is to try to make some changes both in herself and in her marriage.   People often mistakenly think you can’t save your marriage by yourself. And while […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who have decided to try an alternative strategy in order to save their marriage. Often, their spouse has already shown quite a bit of resistance to any strategy that includes trying to entice or engage him into saving the marriage. In fact, often the other spouse doesn’t […]

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By: Leslie Cane: There is a small subset of wives who had no idea that their husband was planning on leaving, but I believe that they are in the minority. Most wives, even if they don’t know exactly when their husband might leave, strongly suspect that at some point, he will leave. They may not […]

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I hear from many spouses who believe that their spouse is going through a midlife crisis. Needless to say, this can often hurt your marriage severely. It’s not uncommon for a spouse in a midlife crisis to suddenly become dissatisfied with everything in his life, including his wife and marriage. Not surprisingly, people want to […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  I get a lot of correspondence from wives who are living apart from their husbands because of a marital separation or because of issues within their marriage.   The vast majority of these wives want their husbands home immediately.  And usually, the longer he is away, the more they want him home. I […]

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By: Leslie Cane: One of the reasons that people separate instead of getting a divorce is that at least one of them is hoping that things might change or improve. However, within those hopes, there can be serious doubts that actual change will take place when you’re talking about adult people who are set in […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When couples separate or hit a rough patch, it’s very common to want to analyze what, exactly, went wrong. Especially in the early days when emotions and frustrations run high, it’s easy to look for someone to blame. As understandable as this desire is, it can be very harmful. At a time […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It feels terrible when you know that your actions have put your marriage in jeopardy. It’s likely you didn’t mean to do anything wrong. But you have. And now your husband is upset or angry and talking about leaving. There’s no way to unring that bell, but there has to be a […]

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