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By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, we have a bit of a warning period before our spouse actually pursues a separation. He tells us that he isn’t happy and that he thinks he needs some time away. Perhaps he has to take a few days to find an apartment. So, we sometimes have time to brace ourselves […]

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By: Leslie Cane: One of the most common complaints that I hear from separated wives is that they are really struggling emotionally and their husband doesn’t seem to care. Often, the wife’s perception is that he isn’t at all concerned about her feelings. Understandably, this hurts deeply. She might describe it this way: “my husband […]

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By: Leslie Cane: If you are the one who has been fighting desperately to keep your spouse from pursuing a separation, then you’re usually searching for any indication that he may not go through with it. You’re looking for signs that he might be losing his resolve, is struggling with his reasoning, or may be […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks (mostly wives) who know that their marriage is perched upon a slippery slope. They know that things aren’t going very well. And they are worried that, very soon, their spouse is going to pursue a separation. This is typically the period of time where they’ll start trying […]

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By: Leslie Cane: If you have been separated for any length of time, you may have noticed that on those rare days that you are able to relax in the presence of your spouse, he is more receptive to you.  Sometimes, he may even approach being loving as a result. You might find that there […]

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By: Leslie Cane: There’s no question that the first couple of days after a spouse moves out can feel truly awful. It’s an incredibly sad, scary, and confusing time. You know how bad it is for you. But what you don’t know is what it is like for him. I’m going to be honest. After […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  There are times during a martial separation when it can become clear that, in order for your marriage to have any chance of survival, you are going to have to try something new.  Many couples who are having trouble communicating or who are working with a volatile situation chose to do “no […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Much of the correspondence that I get comes from separated people who are looking for ways to reconcile with their spouse, save their marriage, and have their spouse come home. Some, however, care as much about how this happens as they are about when it happens. Some separated spouses feel very strongly […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  See if this scenario elicits any sense of recognition for you. Perhaps you and your husband are separated.  Perhaps this all came about because your husband felt the need for “space” or “time.”  Understandably, you may have had some difficulty adjusting to this.  One second your husband is there.  And the next […]

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By: Leslie Cane: For many of us that are facing a separation, having our husband actually leave our home and move out is one of the biggest hurdles that we face. Many of us literally have to look away or actually leave the premises when he actually walks out of the door. Because that reality […]

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