Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane:  You may not start your separation with the intention of closing yourself off from your spouse or other loved ones.  In fact, many of us start with the hope that we will restore the intimacy to eventually become closer.  This is the ideal.  And it happens for some of us.  But for […]

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By: Leslie Cane: After your husband leaves for a trial separation, it’s normal to watch his behavior very closely. Sometimes, we see things that aren’t there. But other observations are kind of obvious. We are looking for clues as to how he might be feeling about the separation and what reactions he might be having […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, when your husband wants a separation and you don’t, you get to a point where you have a pretty awful and hurtful realization: If you want to have any relationship at all with him, you’re going to have to change the relationship that you currently have. Many husbands insist that they […]

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By: Leslie Cane: If you are the spouse who is sure that you want to save your marriage, you feel like it’s such a simple question. One would think that the question of “do we want to fix our marriage” only requires a yes or no answer. How hard is it to go ahead and […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Many wives are very surprised when they find themselves separated or living alone. While many knew that their marriage was struggling, many did not realize that their husband was searching for an alternative place to live. Much of the time, he never even told them that he was considering it – much […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who honestly believe that they are losing their husbands due to a situation that is very difficult to change. Many people believe that if you know why your spouse isn’t happy, then the logical thing to do would be to fix the problem causing the unhappiness and […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you’re separated but you don’t want to be, having your spouse return home is probably your most frequent dream. It’s probably the thing that you want more than anything else, although there may be times when you don’t dare to hope for it because you fear being disappointed. Your spouse coming […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Before you have children, you don’t have any idea about the depth of love that you are capable of feeling for another human being. Most of us think that we could never love anyone more than our spouse. Until we have children – and then we feel a love that reaches an […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It’s rare for a couple to go into a marital separation without any concerns and with full confidence that things are going to work out. Many people understand that a separation comes with risk. This is true even if both people agree that the separation might be best or even necessary. One […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you fully realize that you might soon be facing a divorce, you can want all of the information that you can gather. You want to know if in fact a divorce will be filed and when this might happen. If you are not the one who wants the divorce, then there […]

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