By: Leslie Cane: When we are adults and meet the person who we are sure that we are going to marry, many of us sort of set a goal at that point. We want to control the circumstances so that, eventually, he will want to marry us. This can be true even if he shows […]
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By: Leslie Cane: We’ve all witnessed it. We’ve all known couples who everyone else was jealous of. They were the ones who seemed the have the perfect marriage. They were the ones who you just knew were going to grow old together. They were the perfect couple. Until they weren’t. Somehow, someway, they separated and […]
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By: Leslie Cane: We often truly want to believe that we love our spouse because of who they are. We love their personality, their integrity, or the way that they make us laugh. But if we are being honest, most of us would have to admit that one of the first things that attracted us […]
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By: Leslie Cane: I have come to believe that it is kind of rare to be married for a long time and not have any period when life and marriage becomes a little stale. It happens to the best of us and it doesn’t always reflect directly on our marriages. People get into ruts in […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When we first get married, we assume that we have just become partners with someone who is always going to have our back, who is always going to be our biggest supporter, and who is always going to treat us kindly. We assume this because, in the early days, most of us […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When you are first dating your spouse, your differences are sometimes seen as assets. In the beginning, you will often see the fact that you are not the same as a positive thing because the differences can make your life feel enhanced. But after you have been married for a little while, […]
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By: Leslie Cane: From the correspondence that I get, I find that in many cases, when a marital separation is on the horizon, one spouse may be more invested than the other. What I mean by this is that although both spouses may be unhappy and may want change, one person may be pulling away […]
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By: Leslie Cane: Many people assume that married couples are more alike than different. After all, if you’re going to spend a life time together, isn’t it going to be easier if you agree on most things? Especially the things that are important? I don’t necessarily think that this is always true, but this seems […]
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By: Leslie Cane: I will admit that when I was first separated (and fear and loneliness haven’t yet worn me down,) I told myself that I wanted my husband back only if he could come back willingly and only when he could be enthusiastic about it. However, this did not last for long. Once it […]
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By: Leslie Cane: In some matters, it feels as if it almost pays to be naive or in the dark – at least where your marriage is concerned. Because some knowledge can never be unlearned once you learn it. And when it is something that is very hurtful – like your spouse being unhappy or […]
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