Leslie Cane Articles

Separated wives who are still invested in their marriages will often look at their husband’s behavior in the hopes that they will see clues of an ongoing emotional attachment. After all, you might be having problems, but you’ve known each other (and have been married) for quite some time. Presumably, you can’t just turn off […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who feel constantly blamed by their husbands. Many of them will admit that the issues where the husband places the blame DO exist.  They also admit that these problems harm their marriage. Unfortunately, though, the husband refuses to see his part in any of these issues. Instead, […]

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It’s always kind of a double-edged sword when you finally get your separated spouse to admit to loving you or missing you, only to hear a huge “BUT” at the end of that sentence. Most devastating of all, sometimes that “but” is connected to a phrase alluding to the fact that the husband wants to […]

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A decent percentage of the wives who I hear from have a husband who they suspect is dealing with a midlife crisis. Yes, some of the men are younger than the stereotypical age you’d expect. But many wives can’t help but notice that they are dealing with a husband who suddenly rejects the very things […]

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Many newly-separated wives imagine that their husband is now living the life of a college frat boy.  You know that stereotype – the kid who is suddenly free from the watchful eye of his parents, so he’s living it up, high on his freedom and lack of responsibility.   Maybe that’s a very unfortunate mental […]

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Many women are quite understandably very reluctant about their trial separation. I find that, at least when I consider the people who reach out to me, most of the time it is the husbands who want to separate and the wives who want to save their marriage. There are exceptions, of course. And this is […]

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When you are a separated wife who wants your husband back more than anything, you will often make bargains with yourself that you will take him back in any way that you can get him.  You might tell yourself that this is not the time to picky.  Even if there are remaining marital problems between […]

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Many people who are reluctantly separated are not sure how they are supposed to act around their separated spouse.  This can seem very odd.  After all, this is your spouse that we are talking about.  Chances are, you have known him for a very long time and being around him should feel as natural as […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who feel as if they’ve become more of an individual than a couple. They feel like their relationship with their husband has become somewhat distant and, unfortunately, this was not their choice. There can be a loss of connection and that can invoke a feeling of deep […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people whose spouse is insisting on a marital separation.  The folks reaching out are understandably very reluctant about the separation because they don’t know what to expect.  Most people haven’t been separated before, so they can’t anticipate what their life might look like and feel like while they […]

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