My Husband Moved Out But Said Our Marriage Isn’t Over. Why The Mixed Signals?

By: Leslie Cane: Many wives are confused and frustrated by the mixed signals that their husbands are giving off during a marital separation. Often, the wives are trying to prepare themselves for the worst. They sometimes figure that they have to be realistic, so they admit, even to themselves, that their situation is not a […]

We’re Actually Getting Along Better Since My Spouse Moved Out. What Happens Now?

By: Leslie Cane: Some folks are pleasantly surprised with how their marital separation is shaping up. Many had braced themselves for the worst and were afraid that the separation would actually lead to a divorce. So the fact that things have improved can be a huge relief. But it can also leave you with more […]

I Don’t Think I’m In Love With My Husband Anymore. There’s No Attraction Or Closeness: Tips and Advice That May Help

By: Leslie Cane: I receive a good deal of emails from wives who tell me that they don’t think that they love their husbands anymore, or that they love their husbands but are not “in love” with them.  Some of them will bluntly admit that they don’t find their husband attractive anymore.  Common reasons are […]

I Don’t Want A Divorce, But I’m Not Sure If I Love My Spouse

By: Leslie Cane: Many folks are very committed to sticking things out in their marriage. Sometimes, they have children, and they are vowing to stay together for their kids’ sake. Other times, they believe that marriage is forever, and they are not about to break those vows, no matter what happens. These are honorable ideals, […]

Why Can’t I Let Go Of My Husband?

By: Leslie Cane: Many people have a hard time giving up on or letting go of their husbands. This can be true even if a separation or divorce is imminent or is actually happening. And when I get these types of correspondence, it always brings back memories for me because I was in this situation, […]

Is It OK To Live With My Spouse During The Marital Or Trial Separation?

By: Leslie Cane: Many people are dealing with a separation that wasn’t their idea and, deep down, they are opposed to it. They are hoping to get the separation over with as soon as possible so that they can get on with the business of saving their marriage. Because of our challenging economy, many couples […]

For How Long Do Most People Try To Work On Their Marriage?

By:  Leslie Cane: Many people are uncomfortable about (or impatient with) the marriage-saving process. Often, they aren’t seeing the progress that they expected. And sometimes, they think that the whole process is taking way too long, considering the disappointing results.  Many are dangerously close to giving up, due to their frustrations fueled by impatience. A […]

How Can I Remain Calm When My Husband Is Saying He Wants A Divorce?

By: Leslie Cane: Some wives have read that it’s best to remain calm when their husband is asking for or saying that he wants a divorce. The reason for this is that your panic can cause you to do or say all the wrong things and to make the divorce that much more likely. This […]

How Do I Know If I Want To Save My Marriage?

By: Leslie Cane: Many people aren’t sure which direction they want to take with their troubled marriage. Often, on the one hand, they realize that things have gotten bad. They often wonder if things are so bad that nothing they say or do is going to make a difference. And a tiny part of them […]

How Many Men File And Serve Divorce Papers And Then Change Their Mind?

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, panicked wives are in one of two situations: Either their husband has informed them that he has filed divorce papers. Or, the wife knows that he has filed them because she has been served with a copy. Most of the wives who contact me do not want a divorce. They are […]