Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who worry that saving their marriage in the midst of a martial separation is going to be nearly impossible. If it were up to the wives themselves, a reconciliation would happen tomorrow. But the wives are dealing with reluctant husbands who just do not seem drawn back […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  It’s an unfair irony: Sometimes it seems like the more motivated you are to reconcile with your separated spouse, the less motivated he is to reconcile with you.  You try to push, he pulls away.  You ask to see him more, he makes a point to see you less.  When you finally […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from people who feel that if their spouse would just give them one more chance, they could successfully save their marriage.  They have often begged, pleaded, made promises, and generally just tried to find a way back into their spouse’s heart with no success.  They often don’t understand what […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  Lately, I’ve been noticing wives describing husbands who are suddenly questioning their life as someone who is having an “identity crisis.”  This process used to be called a “midlife crisis,” but since it is happening to people who are younger (and since it is now not always men or husbands who are […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  Some wives who are not yet separated, (but who suspect that they might be soon,) feel like they are living in limbo.  Because they can’t really plan for this separation since their husband is very “confused” or wishy washy about his desire for it. Many wives hear a husband mention or discuss […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you are reluctantly separated, you might find yourself always analyzing the feelings or your spouse and yourself. (And this is especially true if you’re hoping to reconcile.) You may ask yourself whether absence makes the heart grow fonder.  And you may wonder if this is also true for your spouse. It […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Often, when a husband announces that he is going to leave, a wife expects him to promptly pack his bags and begin the separation. It’s not that this is what the wife wants to happen. But when someone makes an announcement that is this serious, well, the assumption is that no one […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from panicked wives who feel that their situation is hopeless. Their husband is declaring that he wants a divorce. As if this isn’t bad enough, when the wife tries to discuss this with him, he digs in his heels and tells her that he absolutely will not be changing […]

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By: Leslie Cane: If you are separated but never wanted the separation to begin with, you already know that pursuing a separation is the wrong choice. Unfortunately, it can feel as if it is sometimes impossible to convince your separated husband of the same. For some people, when they make a decision, they are very […]

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