Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: Believe it or not, there aren’t any hard and fast rules of etiquette when you are separated. I don’t know of any guide or rule book. Most people sort of just feel their way and hopefully, try to approach the situation with humility, grace, and kindness. I sometimes get asked if specific […]

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By: Leslie Cane: In a perfect world and in a semi-perfect marriage, our spouse would value and prioritize us before anyone else. After all, didn’t we vow to forsake all others? However, it’s not at all unusual for me to hear from people who feel that their spouse cares about another group of people more […]

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By: Leslie Cane: There’s an old saying which goes: “when you marry someone, you are also marrying their family – their parents, their children, and their siblings.” Of course, when you are deeply in love, you figure that you can handle any extended family that comes your way. And sometimes, families actually get along very […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  One great irony of people who are having a midlife crisis is that they often don’t think that this is the case.  They usually actually think that they are improving their life with long term changes.  In other words, they often don’t look at this as a “crisis,” or as a “phase,” […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It can seem as if many days are difficult and confusing during a martial or trial separation, but special occasions can be particularly difficult. Not only can they be lonely and confusing, but they can leave you scrambling to figure out just how you are supposed to celebrate them. One holiday that […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  When we are first separated and struggling greatly, we often wish for any spark of hope that things might improve.  We often make little deals with ourselves.  We’ll tell ourselves that we will scale back our hopes and make our goals a little more gradual and realistic.  For example, maybe we will […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from wives who used to be very clear on the fact that they would take their separated husbands back in an instant, at least initially. However, some are surprised to find that the longer the separation goes on, the more they come to learn about themselves and about their […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It’s normal for separated spouses to watch each other very closely for signs of loneliness during the martial or trial separation. We aren’t always sure if the loneliness is good or bad – but at least we know that it could mean that our spouse isn’t having the time of their lives […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I think it’s safe to say that we all feel a sense of disappointment, sadness, and frustration during our marital separation. There can also sometimes be loneliness and even desperation. It’s very hard to not know what might lay ahead for you and your marriage. And sometimes, there is a particularly strong […]

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