By: Leslie Cane: It’s normal to want to do whatever is necessary to keep your spouse from pursuing a trial separation. One way that we will often try to do this is to tell our spouse that they are wrong and that they will realize their mistake and come crawling back. (I admit that very […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When you have a spouse who is pretty much telling you that he will not lift a finger to save your marriage, then the logical response is that you will do everything on your own. Most of us would give anything to have a cooperative spouse who was going to work with […]
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By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from people who feel like something is missing in their lives. And many of them feel like this “missing feeling” stems directly from their spouse or from their marriage. Still though, many of these folks are very insistent that they still love their spouse very much. Despite this though, […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When your husband starts talking about a divorce, it can be hard to take him seriously – especially at first. Often, we want to believe that his unhappiness or discontent is not that serious or is just a passing thing. Then, we want to believe that although he may be gravely unhappy, […]
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By: Leslie Cane: Typically, the people that I hear from the most are those who want to save their marriages. But sometimes, I do hear from those who are considering ending or walking away from their relationship. Many of them want to make sure that they end things in the right way or they want […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When your husband tells you that he is leaving and moving out for a while, there is a real tendency to assume that because of this, your relationship is going to deteriorate. We worry that things will be awkward or chilly between us. We worry that we will fight more and connect […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When separated husbands make casual or flippant remarks that hurt, they usually have no idea how much it is going to affect us. They have no idea how much we examine their words in order to tell us what they are thinking and feeling and what their intentions may be moving forward. […]
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By: Leslie Cane: When we marry our spouse, we vow to stand by them if they are sick or poor. And I would say that the vast majority of the time, we mean it with all of our hearts. Admittedly, many people marry when they are young and healthy, so most of us have trouble […]
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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from couples who assume that when things get so bad that one of them has to move out, then there’s no real choice except to get a divorce. Many just do not believe that once someone walks outside of the marital home to live on their own, that things […]
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