Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes, we say or do things based on the emotion of the moment. This can be especially true when we sense our marriage or our spouse changing in an undesirable way. Sometimes, we take this so far that we ask or tell our spouse to leave. And we might be surprised and […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It’s natural to watch your spouse very closely when you are separated. Unfortunately, you will sometimes not get to spend as much time with him as you might like. So, when you do have the opportunity to talk with or see your spouse, you are usually watching with intense scrutiny so that […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Much of the time, when you are going through a martial separation and still want to save your marriage, you are exploring any number of things that you can say or do in order to make your situation better. To that end, I sometimes have people ask me what are the best […]

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By: Leslie Cane: One of the biggest concerns that I get in correspondence from a separated spouse is whether or not their spouse misses them. They typically ask for signs that will tell them that this is true. Or, if they feel that they are not seeing these signs, they can ask about ways to […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Many wives who are separated intuitively know that it is in their best interest to try to remain upbeat during their separation. It is common sense that being pleasant will often get you a better result than being angry or unpleasant. This is can be more challenging than you would think, though. […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  Some people are lucky enough to become very close to their spouse’s family when they get married.  Some wives will tell you that they are closer to their mother – in – law than to their own mothers.  Or that they feel as if their sister – in – law is closer […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Understandably, people tend to be really hard on husbands who decide to leave their family in order to “have space” or “find themselves.”  Much of the time, the husband reassures his family that hopefully, this is all just going to be temporary.  He will often admit that he isn’t happy with his […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Often, as we are getting ready to embark on a trial or martial separation, we have certain expectations of how our spouse might act toward us. Many of these assumptions are negative ones. And they are based on fear. We are concerned that our spouse is going to look at us negatively […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who are deeply afraid that their unhappy spouse is going to leave them. Often, he has made comments to that effect and it has just become obvious that he is not invested in the marriage anymore. This is usually sad news to the spouse who still wants […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you are separated, communication with your spouse can be very confusing. After all, when you lived together and your marriage was on track, you likely never had to think about when or how you’d communicate. If your husband was in the room and you needed or wanted to talk to him, […]

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