Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: When your spouse tells you that he is no longer invested in your marriage, it can become very easy to get down on the whole situation and to begin to feel somewhat helpless. One reason for this is that you can feel a lack of control. It can feel as if no […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who feel as if they are walking on egg shells during their marital or trial separation.  They feel as if they can not be themselves.  Because when they listen to their gut and reach out to their husband, they are either rejected or they get the distinct […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Most of the people that I hear from are those looking for a way to convince their spouse to either end the separation or to not separate in the first place.  However, occasionally, I hear from the spouse who initiated the separation, but who is now having second thoughts.  Much of the […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Much of the time, I hear from people who are trying to break through to their spouse during a marital or trial separation.  They want to see or talk to their spouse more often so that they can make some progress. Occasionally though, I hear from someone who is trying to set […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  It’s not at all uncommon for me to hear from couples who are separated and still having sex.  Many of them confess this fact as if it is an awful thing that is unique to them.  I can promise you that it isn’t.  And if you think about it, this makes sense.  […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from couples who have fallen into a very destructive pattern. Their communication begins to consist primarily of fighting. They lose their ability to communicate in a constructive way that is meant to bring about a resolution. So, when the fights invariably come, the only way the couples knows how […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  It really hurts when you know that your spouse isn’t particularly happy being married to you.  It’s devastating when you know that there is something about you that makes him unhappy in general.  This is compounded even further when he acts on that unhappiness and makes an attempt to change you. It […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  I think that it is just in a woman’s DNA to want to be needed.  We are natural caregivers and sometimes, we want nothing more than to be helpful and needed to those we love.  We know that our husband is an adult who could do things for himself.  But, it is […]

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By: Leslie Cane: To say that a trial separation can seem like culture shock is an understatement.  This is especially true if you did not want the separation and your spouse was the one who initiated it. Honestly, it can feel as if your entire world has been turned upside down.  One day your spouse […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you have been separated for a while and you have tried any number of failed strategies to inspire a reconciliation or to get your spouse to come home, talk and thoughts will often turn to the idea of “moving on.” This is especially true when your separated spouse is telling you […]

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