Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane:  It’s not uncommon for your feelings, wishes, and outlook to change after you have been separated for a while.  Sometimes, you go into the separation thinking that you will feel a certain way or want a certain thing.  But time away from your spouse makes you feel differently and encourages you to […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes get correspondence from separated wives who are operating under the assumption that their husband doesn’t care all that much about them anymore. After all, if he cared, he wouldn’t have initiated the separation, right? If he cared, he wouldn’t want for his wife to live on her own while he […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I like to think that very few people enthusiastically go into their divorce. Many see it as a last resort, and after they feel like they’ve tried several things to make improvements. Still, they worry that they are going to take this step and have tons of regret. Many wonder if there […]

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By: Leslie Cane: One of the most common topics that I get asked about is how to read or interpret “mixed signals” from a separated spouse. Even when you’re trying very hard to be open and to “go with the flow” as far as your separated spouse is concerned, it can be difficult when you […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you are in the middle of a separation that you never wanted in the first place, it can be tempting to want to remind your spouse that they are still married to someone who still loves them very much. I know first hand that there can be a real worry that […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It is an awful feeling when you are separated and your spouse cuts off all communication with you. This is especially true if you want to save your marriage. Sometimes, the spouse pursuing the separation will promise that it’s only going to be a temporary thing with communication throughout. But once the […]

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By: Leslie Cane: If you ask your separated husband how he is feeling during your separation, you’re often hoping for phrases like: “lonely,” “depressed,” or “confused.” So when instead you get a response like “liberated,” it not only hurts, it’s very confusing as well. It can make you wonder if it’s even going to be […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  I sometimes hear from people who are separated but who have just had sex with their separated spouse.  Sometimes, these folks are a little panicked – because they think that they’ve done something wrong or that they have put the reconciliation in jeopardy.  Frankly, having sex during your trial or martial separation […]

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By: Leslie Cane:   Our society has a nasty phrase for women who like to feel in control of their lives and their relationships  –  “control freak.”  I think that this is somewhat unfair.  Men who don’t like surprises and who like to ensure quality and safety are called “careful” or “astute.”  But women who […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When your husband first announces that he intends to move out, you sometimes think that maybe he is just blowing off steam. You hope that he is just posturing and that perhaps you can talk him out of it. When you are seemingly not able to change his mind, it is tempting […]

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