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By: Leslie Cane: When your spouse mentions a separation, it’s normal and understandable that you are going to monitor his behavior very closely. If he’s acting cold and distant to you, then you will often take that as a bad sign. But, if he’s sweet or nice to you, then you can be unsure as […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who have become somewhat emotionally burned during their marital separation.  Therefore, they feel reluctance when they begin to feel any sort of hope.  Even when it appears that things are improving or turning around, we can sometimes have the urge to hold ourselves back, afraid that the […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  It’s natural to want to be friendly and accommodating if you are on a break or trial separation.  You feel like it makes sense to be on good terms with your spouse because this is going to allow you to work together and to hopefully get along well, despite the circumstances.  The […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Laid-back is probably the last phrase that I would use to describe myself during my own separation. No, I wasn’t laid back at all. In fact, I was uptight, full of anxiety, and unable to stop myself from constantly fretting about the future. I intellectually knew that all of this wasn’t helping […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It’s just human nature to try to explain away or even negate bad news. When our worst fears are on the verge of coming true, some of us will try very hard to deny its existence. Take for example when your spouse starts talking or hinting about a separation. Some people will […]

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By: Leslie Cane: There are people who go through a marital separation or a divorce who will tell you that they never saw it coming.  They will insist that they were generally in a happy marriage where they were able to manage any conflict that presented itself. Others will admit that even though they never […]

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By: Leslie Cane:  I often hear from people who are trying to craft a plan to get their separated husband to return back home.  Most people will try to be straightforward with positive tactics, at least in the beginning of the process.  The hope is that the two spouses can reconnect and then reconcile in […]

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By: Leslie Cane: When you’re separated and desperately want to reconcile, you want to have hope whenever you see encouraging behavior on the part of your spouse. So every time he calls or sees you and things go well, it’s natural to hope that this means that you are well on your way to a […]

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By: Leslie Cane: It hurts to hear your spouse keep harping about one personality trait that is just as natural to you as breathing. And when the criticism gets so bad that your spouse is threatening to leave, then the whole thing can feel like a personal attack. This is especially true if you have […]

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By: Leslie Cane: Understandably, there is often a big rush to get your spouse back home when you are separated. It would be extremely rare for me to hear someone say that they actually enjoyed their separation, especially if they never wanted it to begin with. No, living alone and apart during the separation feels […]

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