Leslie Cane Articles

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who want to pursue a separation – but only temporarily. These folks really don’t have any intention of ending their marriage or even of doing much soul searching during the separation. They merely want to scare their spouse and teach him or her a lesson. So I […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who feel as if they are running out of time to save their marriage. And they typically feel this way because their spouse has made it clear that he is getting very impatient. Some spouses go so far as to threaten divorce or separation if something doesn’t […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who being reassured by their spouse that their marital separation should only be “temporary.” However, the spouse who is resistant to this can have their doubts. Essentially, your spouse is asking you to take a huge leap of faith which can bring about all sorts of doubts. […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from separated folks who really do want to save their marriage but who are afraid to get their hopes up. They are often fully aware of the obstacles that they face. And, they find these obstacles to be somewhat overwhelming. Many people will look at their problems and compare […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who feel pretty vulnerable during their separation. And, although they intuitively know that they should give their spouse space and keep themselves busy, they are having a very hard time doing that. Often, they feel quite lonely and discouraged.  Then, they aren’t sure how to make these […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who are worried that their trial or marital separation is going to mean the end of their marriage. They sometimes ask their spouse for reassurance about this and they are told to hang in there and have faith. This can be difficult though, especially when you’re not […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from spouses who are discouraged when they hear advice or read articles about rebuilding their marriage during a trial or marital separation. And, the reason for this is that they often feel that there is no marriage to rebuild. They look over their marriage and they honestly feel as […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who aren’t sure how to draw their husband closer during their trial separation. There are times when things seem to be going well. And, there are times when she isn’t sure what her husband is feeling. That is why she sometimes hesitates when it comes to asking […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from spouses who have arranged to begin a trial separation because something in their marriage is less than satisfactory. They often feel badly or guilty about this, but they are hoping that having some time apart will give them much needed perspective. They often wonder just how much of […]

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By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from folks who feel that their spouses sudden need for “space” or his desire for a marital separation stems, at least in part, to some personal struggles that he’s been experiencing. Often, the spouse who doesn’t want the separation firmly believes that the difficulties or the stressors that their […]

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