My Husband Says That I Expect Too Much From Him During Our Separation

It can be hard to set clear boundaries during a trial or marital separation.  This can be especially true if the spouses differ in their opinion about the need for one in the first place.  Often, there is one spouse who feels that a separation is the only way to save the marriage, while the […]

Should I Tell My Separated Spouse That I Miss Him?

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from people who aren’t sure how they should be acting while they are separated from their spouse. They have often read that you shouldn’t seem desperate or appear that you are just waiting for your spouse to call or attempt to see you. In other words, to the extent […]

What Points Do I Need To Make When Meeting Up With My Separated Husband For The First Time?

I sometimes hear from wives who are finally going to meet up with their separated husband.  Often, the husband is the spouse who initiated the separation, while the wife was reluctant to separate and has been looking forward to seeing her husband again.  Many of these husbands wanted a “break” or “space” and so the […]

Will My Husband Regret Leaving Me? What Can I Do To Make Sure That He Does?

By: Leslie Cane:  I sometimes hear from wives who are trying to come up with a strategy to get their husbands to come home after leaving.  One of the common strategies that I’m asked about is trying to make your husband feel regret or guilt about leaving.   I recently heard from a wife whose husband […]

Why Does He Want A Divorce When He Says He Still Loves Me?

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from women who are extremely confused and horribly hurt. Their husband has told them that he wants a divorce. And, if this isn’t bad enough, he’s insisting that he still loves them. I heard from a wife who said: “out of the blue, my husband took me out to dinner […]

When Your Husband Flat Out Says He Doesn’t Care About Your Marriage And Wants A Separation

Some husbands can be a bit mysterious and vague when they initiate a separation.  They’ll tell their wives that they just need some time away.  They insinuate that it might all be temporary. Sometimes, they will reassure their wife that they still love her (or at least care very much about her,) but they just […]

Does Husbands Ever Come Back After Moving Out? If So, How Many?

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who are living alone because their husband has left and moved out. They often very much want for their husbands to move back home eventually, but they don’t know how realistic this is going to be. Often, he has shown considerable resistance to any attempt to lure […]

Marriage Separation Do’s And Don’ts: What Not To Do (And Do) When You’re Separated And Want To Save Your Marriage

I often hear from people (usually wives) who are going through a separation (or considering one) and want the whole process to be over as soon as possible so that they can save their marriages.  Many agreed to the separation because they saw no other way.  It was clear that their husband was dead set on […]

My Separated Husband Wants To Know Why I Won’t Accept That It’s Over

I sometimes hear from wives who want to believe in their heart that there is a still a chance for their separated marriage.  However, their husband isn’t nearly as optimistic and he will sometimes try to convince the wife that she should just accept that there may not be a reconciliation.  Often, the wife finds […]

Ways To Make A Husband Miss You During The Separation So That He’ll Want To Come Back To You Or Return Home

I firmly believe that a separation does not have to be the end of your marriage. In fact, I believe that a separation that allows the time and distance to work for the marriage can actually make both people more committed to staying together and more determined to make things work. The reason for the […]