What Not To Do When Your Husband Leaves

by: leslie cane: I get quite a bit of correspondence asking for advice on how to handle it when you spouse leaves, especially when you want them to come back. It’s just as important to understand what you should not do in this situation. The reason for this is that doing and acting in the […]

Will Giving My Husband Space Make Things Worse?

By: Leslie Cane: “Giving a husband space” is a regular topic in the emails that I receive.  Many wives are on the receiving end of such a request from a husband who says he needs to “work out his feelings” or “time to sort things out.”  And I would have to say that many of […]

What Must I Do To Make My Husband Come Back Home?

By: Leslie Cane:  I sometimes hear from wives who are so frustrated that they are not being successful in getting their separated husband to come back home.  Often, they think that they have tried everything and, so far, nothing has enticed him to come back. I heard from a wife who said: “my husband left […]

My Husband Says He Doesn’t Care If I Leave Because We’re Not Happy. I Guess He Tried To Call My Bluff

In certain circumstances, I do not find it unusual for married couples to threaten the very thing that they fear the most. In other words, it is not uncommon for a wife who dreads a separation to threaten that very thing in order to get her husband to reassure her that there will be NO […]

Signs Of A Husband Who Is No Longer Emotionally Connected To His Wife

By: Leslie Cane:  I sometimes hear from wives who are mourning the lack of a connection in their marriage.  Many worry that the emotional bond is no longer there.  I heard from a wife who said: “I don’t think that my husband is emotionally connected to me anymore.  He’s very cold and distant toward me.  […]

I Want My Husband Back, But I’m Not Sure I Want To Force Him To Do Anything He Doesn’t Want To Do

By: Leslie Cane: Sometimes when wives are separated and decide to go on a campaign to get their husbands back, they look at every possible outcome. They begin to play the “what if” game. They’ll ask themselves what if they got their husband back but ended up divorced anyway. Or, what if they could manipulate […]

How To Respond When Your Husband Says He Wants A Divorce

By Leslie Cane:  I often hear from women who are struggling to decide how to respond when their husband tells them that he wants a divorce.  Most of the women who contact me don’t want a divorce and want to save their marriages instead.  Sometimes, the husband has already mentioned the divorce and, other times, […]

Should You Ignore Your Spouse During A Separation If You Want Them Back?

By: Leslie Cane: I often hear from people who are trying to come up with the best strategies for dealing with their spouse during a marital separation.  The goal is to make their spouse want to come back to them and to be willing to save the marriage.  To that end, one suggestion that is often […]

I Don’t Want My Marriage To Be Over But My Husband Has Moved Out

By: Leslie Cane: I sometimes hear from wives who believe that their worst case scenario has now happened because their husband has finally got angry or frustrated enough to move out.  They are often struggling with living alone for the first time in a long time.  And they are often worrying about what is going […]

Will My Husband Come Back To Me After His Mid Life Crisis Is Over?

By: Leslie Cane: I hear from a lot of wives who are living in uncertainty because of their husband’s midlife crisis. Many hope that this is a problem that is eventually going to pass. But having that sort of faith becomes more difficult when your husband has actually left you due to his new change […]